Same-Sex Marriage Equality-Yes [Finally] Today; Wedding Toppers Tomorrow?

  • Posted on June 28, 2011 at 1:50 am

At Unity of New York, yesterday there was rejoicing in the aisles, in the congregation, and on stage as Rev. Paul Tenaglia’s moratorium was summarily dispensed with because the vote to allow same sex marriages came back in the affirmative. Rev. Tenaglia emphasized this by having various groups stand up and proclaim their sense of pride, accentuating that we all deserve and now all do have pride in choice of who we can marry. Equality is not equal if all cannot and do not experience the same things, including getting married. Just the night before the news spread like wild fire throughout the city, and probably the state, that the law had been voted on, and marriages could commence 30 days hence or starting on 25 July. Anyone wishing to get married can register as early as 5 July 2011. The vote in the affirmative could not have come at a more propitious time, the start of weekend of the Gay Pride March. I am sure it felt like it was a sign from the heavens, to march with renewed pride and celebration.

What does this mean for New Yorkers? It means that no longer does the Gay Community have to get married in one of the other states to the north of us and live in “sin” or as nonentities, without rights and benefits of being married here in New York. It means also that they will get to experience the same marriage or contractual agreement challenges that other married couples go through during the life of their marriages, now too. But even before that, other things may have to be taken into consideration. A friend of mine suggests this first year may be one of chaos, much like the new cars that come out onto the market (You know, the ones that have come from concept first into new car form). As every straight person who lives together before marriage, can tell anyone—living together and living married are two completely different things. In this first year, relationships that had been going along smoothly, even though there was no marriage available, may go through growing pains now that they can get married, or even break up because they can get married.

The other interesting thing is that I have heard that there is now a scarcity of wedding cake toppers, since the passage of the vote for same-sex marriage, (according to 1010 WINS-7/26/2011) you know those traditional and ‘so-called’ comical cake toppers that often go on top of the wedding cake for the show at the reception. Here’s what I hope will happen to those wedding cake toppers: I hope that whoever manufactures them, now gets real models for each group of people that are being depicted. Have you ever noticed that all of the wedding cake topper figurines only have one or two different faces? There is no real differentiation between a Caucasian, African Diaspora, Asian, or Hispanic figurine. That is other than skin tone and possibly thicker eyebrows for Hispanic and curlier hair for the people of African Diaspora descent. Otherwise all are based on Caucasoid features. In order to have real inclusiveness (within the wedding cake topper) more thought must put into the manufacturing process, as well. Possibly this doesn’t seem to be a big deal, but when you look at your cake topper and it looks nothing like you, you begin to wonder who’s wedding is it anyway. Inclusiveness does not mean every one looks alike, acts alike, or even dresses like. It means we are all included at the party, no matter what our differences. That’s really what makes a party fun, don’t you think? I for one, believe that. Now that we’ve gotten the big stuff out of the way, let’s start on the wedding cake toppers.


With regard to the wedding cake toppers there are many ways to remedy that challenge. Some I can even tell you about in another blog entry. Some really fun DIY (Do-It-Yourself) projects to make your wedding (cake topper) yours and fun.


3 Comments on Same-Sex Marriage Equality-Yes [Finally] Today; Wedding Toppers Tomorrow?

  1. CharLena says:

    Extremely formal or super casual, the wedding cake topper should always a representation of the bride AND groom. Having figurines massed produced do not represent formality. It actually represents more accessibility than anything else.

    With regard to divorce rates versus or in comparison with marriage, according to or Center for Disease Control (FastStats), as date March 2012. Marriages 6.4 out of 1000, Divorce rate: 3.8 out of 1000. Total marriages: 2,077,000.

    As for why people get married, of course there are almost as many wrong reasons as there are good reason, including for love, but this is just human nature.

    Enjoy life.

  2. Bailey says:

    I would think that it would depend on the theme. A funny wdeidng cake topper would not have a place at an extremely formal, sit down dinner type of reception.At a backyard BBQ, something more relaxed would be ok.I don’t think it sends the message that wdeidngs aren’t taken seriously, instead it shows the personality of the bride and groom.Also, the divorce rate is high because people get married for the wrong reasons, not because of cake toppers.And, a 50% divorce rate doesn’t mean that 50% of marriages end in divorce. That number is based on number of marriages per year vs. number of divorces. Do a google search on calculating divorce rates . While the divorce rate is extremely high, it’s probably closer to 15% than 50%.Oh and I hate the word tacky . Ugh!

  3. I can’t wait for another good writes of this nature.

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